The aim of every person is to remain happy. And happiness does not depend on how much one has but what one makes of what one has.
There is not a day passes when situations that confront us need handling. Some seem so complicated leaving an unsettled feeling which in turn robs us of our sleep.
There is a simple way how one can deal with this.
First and foremost situations need to be categorized
– those which need outside help
– those that could be handled independently
-situations that do not interfere with our day to day life
– situations that we can live without
– situations that are imminent and need attention on priority basis
We tend to give undue importance to trivial such as a drift between friends or with extended family. These take a lot of our time and energy and when they are in a category where one depends on others for rapprochement for example that is a sheer waste of time.
What is required for our survival are the issues that should be dealt with first. Other issues could be called the frills which are really not important.
Once ‘picking wheat from chaff’ is done and we know situations that need to be sorted out those should get top priority so that one can smoothly handle one day at a time. Loading oneself with unsolved but unimportant matters can only make one’s life miserable.
We see kids coming from school all upset because their friend was rude to them or some such thing. Instead of talking about what they learnt in school that matter goes to the back burner.
Picking wheat from chaff is an art and a lot of thinking goes into it. It is only after spending some good time over it that a list will emerge. In this process one will also learn how one was giving importance to things that are really not necessary for one’s survival.